I have not perfected it yet. I probably never will. At least trying makes it better.
I believe in the good, better, and best method.
It is good to eat. Eating something is better than skipping a meal.
It is better to make grilled chicken with a side of asparagus and rice than a donut.
It is best if the grilled chicken had no added hormones, if the asparagus was certified organic, and if the rice was wild.
I find that as I keep this in mind, I climb my way up the latter toward the best as far as I can go. When the budget is tighter, I go with what is on sale. If I have a little flexibility, I spring for the healthier stuff.
If these eating events become a routine, it is a household way of doing things instead of something preached. Pre-made desserts can be eliminated from the grocery list and out of mind (at least more so). Kids can pick out their favorite fruit bowl fruits. Sit down meals can be enjoyed often.
The likelihood of healthy children is best when coming from a healthy family.